Cats are mysterious creatures — fiercely independent, quietly affectionate, and very particular about their environment. While cats have been living with humans for thousands of years, misunderstandings are still common. If you want to keep your cat happy (and avoid becoming the enemy), there are a few things you absolutely should not do.
1. Don’t Declaw Them
Declawing is not just a fancy nail trim. It’s an amputation of the last bone of each toe — like cutting off a human finger at the last knuckle. Studies show it can lead to chronic pain, behavioral issues, and even arthritis. (Journal of Feline Medicine and Surgery, 2017)
Better option: Trim their nails regularly or use cat-safe nail caps if needed.
2. Don’t Yell at Them
Cats do not understand punishment the way humans or even dogs might. Yelling just scares them and erodes trust. Their brains interpret shouting as a threat, not a teaching moment.
Better option: Redirect unwanted behavior gently and consistently. Positive reinforcement always wins.
3. Don’t Use Strong Scents Around Them
Cats have a sense of smell 14 times stronger than ours. That essential oil diffuser you love? It might feel like a chemical attack to your cat. Some essential oils (like tea tree, eucalyptus, and citrus) are even toxic to them.
Better option: Stick to unscented cleaners and avoid diffusing oils unless they’re cat-safe — and even then, keep it minimal.
4. Don’t Force Physical Affection
Cats are like the cool introverts at a party. They come to you — not the other way around. Grabbing, hugging, or forcing cuddles can make your cat feel trapped and anxious.
Better option: Let them approach you. If they want affection, they’ll ask in their own weird little ways.
5. Don’t Skip Their Vet Visits
Cats are masters of hiding pain. They can have serious health issues without showing obvious signs until it's too late. Skipping annual vet checks is like ignoring the oil light on your car dashboard.
Better option: Routine check-ups and preventive care save money and heartbreak later.
6. Don’t Overfeed Them (Even If They Guilt You)
Over half of domestic cats are overweight, according to the Association for Pet Obesity Prevention (2023). Extra weight leads to diabetes, arthritis, and a shorter lifespan.
Better option: Measure their food. Watch the treats. Love isn’t measured in calories.
7. Don’t Punish Them for Scratching
Scratching is natural — it sharpens their claws, marks territory, and stretches their muscles. Punishing a cat for scratching is like yelling at a human for blinking.
Better option: Give them acceptable scratching posts. Make them attractive with catnip or treats.
8. Don’t Ignore Their Litter Box Needs
A dirty litter box is the feline equivalent of a gas station bathroom at 3 a.m. Cats are clean freaks. A neglected litter box can cause stress, infections, and "accidents" in unwanted places.
Better option: Scoop daily, clean thoroughly once a week, and have one more box than the number of cats.
9. Don’t Assume They’ll “Just Work It Out” With Other Pets
Throwing two animals together and hoping for the best is a rookie mistake. Cats need slow, careful introductions to other animals (and even new people) to avoid lifelong grudges or fights.
Better option: Gradual, supervised introductions with lots of patience — and treats.
10. Don’t Treat Them Like Small Dogs
Cats aren’t dogs in smaller, sassier bodies. Their social structures, communication styles, and needs are very different. Treating them like a dog can lead to frustration on both sides.
Better option: Learn to speak cat — respect their body language, their quirks, and their independence.
Final Thought
Cats are not high-maintenance divas; they are just misunderstood. Understanding what not to do can make all the difference between living with a grumpy, aloof roommate and building a bond with a loving, quirky companion. Respect their boundaries, meet their needs, and let your cat be the wonderfully strange creature they were born to be.