In popular culture, healing is often romanticized. It’s depicted as a serene, linear journey marked by calm mornings, breakthroughs in therapy, and an increasing sense of peace. However, the reality of mental health healing is far more complex—and sometimes, deceptively painful. For many, the early stages of psychological recovery feel more chaotic, emotionally raw, and distressing than the period of dysfunction that preceded it. While this can be confusing or discouraging, neuroscience and psychological literature offer a compelling explanation: feeling worse can be a sign of real, meaningful healing.
Emotional Discomfort Is Often a Sign of Activation, Not Regression
The initial stages of trauma recovery or treatment for anxiety and depression often bring intense discomfort. This phenomenon is well-documented in evidence-based therapies such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and exposure-based modalities. As individuals begin to confront repressed memories, maladaptive coping mechanisms, or long-avoided emotions, the nervous system becomes activated. This isn’t regression—it’s the surfacing of long-suppressed psychological material that must be processed to heal.
Research published in Psychotherapy (APA, 2019) shows that clients often experience a temporary increase in distress during the early or middle phases of therapy, especially when confronting avoidance patterns or reprocessing trauma. This spike in discomfort is not a therapeutic failure, but a sign that the deeper work is beginning. When previously suppressed emotions are allowed into conscious awareness, it can feel like a storm—but storms clear the air.
Homeostasis and the “Paradox of Healing”
Psychologically speaking, the brain and body strive to maintain homeostasis—a stable internal equilibrium. If a person has lived for years with emotional numbing, self-isolation, or avoidance, these become the baseline. When therapy or personal growth disrupts that baseline, the brain initially interprets it as a threat. This explains why individuals often feel worse when they begin making healthier choices—such as setting boundaries, ending toxic relationships, or reducing self-medication behaviors.
This is what some clinicians refer to as the paradox of healing. For instance, stopping maladaptive coping strategies like substance use or emotional suppression exposes the underlying pain those behaviors were masking. Similarly, developing insight into harmful patterns can create temporary grief or existential distress. According to a 2018 review in The Lancet Psychiatry, the destabilizing nature of early recovery is a well-acknowledged and normal aspect of mental health improvement.
Neurobiological Rewiring Is Not a Passive Process
Healing isn’t just a metaphorical process—it’s a literal rewiring of the brain. When individuals begin practicing new thought patterns or behaviors, they are essentially reconditioning neural pathways. The concept of neuroplasticity—the brain’s ability to reorganize itself by forming new connections—is foundational to this understanding. But this rewiring is often preceded by neural conflict.
Old patterns of self-criticism, hypervigilance, or avoidance are not immediately erased by new insights or healthier habits. Instead, they coexist, clash, and compete. This internal tension can feel like confusion, resistance, or emotional dysregulation. In Nature Reviews Neuroscience (2021), studies showed that the destabilization of old networks is often accompanied by a temporary increase in stress responses before integration and resilience are established.
Reframing Discomfort as a Milestone
It is vital that individuals—and mental health professionals—reframe discomfort during recovery as not only normal, but often necessary. Instead of interpreting emotional turmoil as a sign that therapy or self-work “isn’t working,” it may actually be a crucial turning point. This perspective requires a shift from symptom-suppression to growth-tolerance: the understanding that discomfort is often the crucible in which meaningful change occurs.
This does not mean one should endure unsafe or overwhelming symptoms without support. But it does mean acknowledging that healing can be noisy, turbulent, and even painful—especially when one is shedding years of psychological armor.
Peace Comes After the Process, Not Before
The myth of peaceful healing does a disservice to those bravely doing the work of recovery. In truth, healing may initially feel like disorientation, grief, or emotional overload. These sensations are not signs of failure—they’re signs that the nervous system is beginning to trust, feel, and reprocess.
Mental health professionals and educators must continue to emphasize that the path to well-being is not always calm—but it is always worth it. Emotional discomfort, when approached with curiosity and compassion, often heralds the most transformative breakthroughs. Peace does come—but only after the deeper work has cleared space for it.
References
American Psychological Association. (2019). Therapeutic Alliance and Symptom Change in Psychotherapy: A Meta-Analytic Review. Psychotherapy, 56(4), 421–435.
Holmes, E.A., et al. (2018). The Lancet Psychiatry Commission: Psychological treatments research in tomorrow’s science. The Lancet Psychiatry, 5(3), 237–286.
Kolb, B., & Gibb, R. (2021). Neuroplasticity in the developing brain: Implications for rehabilitation. Nature Reviews Neuroscience, 22(5), 305–317.